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Election Day!!!!!

Today is the day that we have been waiting for.  After all of the debates, and drama from both parties it will soon be decided who will take office for the next four years.  I pray that President Obama will continue to be in the White House with that beautiful family of his…

YOU know who I voted for!??!

President Obama may be African American but he’s the President for every race and every income level…

He’s done a lot in office and needs four more years to continue turning this economy around!!!

I know we sure need it!!

 

Pictures found on my social media sites.

Motivational Speaker / Workshops

I started this website to help promote myself, others who are amazing, and to build my brand.  I am now ready to stop the talking and start the doing. Everyone who knows me, knows that I had multiple trials and tribulations growing up as a child and that I am still working on those said issues….but that I also want to help others heal by talking to about about my experiences. I went through some necessary changes, but those changes could have been gone through differently if I wasn’t afraid to speak out. My goal is to help others not be afraid and to help them end that pain in a healthier way.

Everyone knows that I love to talk.

I want to start talking for a reason.

See Below:

Javania is on a mission who refuses to be defined by her past. Her passion is to help others free themselves from the chains that bind them, while steering them on a path of wholeness. Having overcome a childhood filled with molestation, and enduring the loss of her mother at 16, Javania knows first hand the dark prison of suicidal thoughts stemming from the sense of helplessness accompanied by low self-esteem.

Schools, Churches, Non-Profit Organizations if you have a day where you can have workshops to help the youth deal with Self-Esteem, Peer Pressure, Safe Sex, Abstinence, Rape/Molestation then, contact me!!

*Topics are not comprehensive and can be tailored to meet the needs of your program.

*The workshop includes a Journal made by Javania and Pens for the students to write with.

Javania is “Empowering Through Experience”: A Speaker on Worth Seeking, Inspirational Speaking, and Empowerment Teaching”

Website:
http://www.javaniamwebb.com
Twitter: JavaniaMWebb
Facebook: javania.m.webbInc

Pastels and Sparkle

Note that it’s October… Lol

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Cigarette pants from target, green silk shirt from old navy and sparkle Toms

Today is better than yesterday even though I did not post! Tell me what you think?

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Word for today…. LOVE

Love unselfishly, whole, unbiased, and true no matter what you do..

 

Muah

Day Three: Fashion

Today was a lot better and yes I notice I’m late and missed some days! Lol

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Blouse from JC Penny, Cardigan from Express, Slacks from Goodwill, and Black Flats from Old Navy..

What do you all think? I feel that this was the best day because I didn’t try. When I try I look a mess, when I just pick what I feel I look fabulous…

Day Two: Fashion

Day two was a little bit better….

Purple sweater from old navy, cigarette pants target

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Day One-Fashion

I feel like I started off badly, I could have done better, but I didn’t… There’s always today and tomorrow.

Shirt from goodwill, old navy khaki’s, toms from three years ago.

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Fashion

I like to call my sense of style Boho-Chic…. LoL  I say this because I love structured classic pieces (sheath dresses and cardigans) but then I also like to dress bohemian with my colors and different type of fabrics… I love to dress up and look gorgeous at all times but with the type of job I have now I am not able to do so. I work at a prison where I must be covered up and with out my clothes being too tight as well. So I have decided to document my outfits that I wear to work because I think it will challenge me 1. I cannot buy anything and 2. I won’t have to look the same on a daily basis.

The challenges I have

1. Not buying any new clothes

2. No tight or low cut shirts

3. No open toe (doesn’t matter now it’s fall)

4. Don’t want to look sexy, sends the wrong message

5. Can’t wear heels

6. I spend 6 of the 8 hours on my feet

Those of you who work with the same type of restrictions, chime in and help me out!

 

Self-Worth: Part Two

If you have not read Part One, please do so first.. (click on the link)

As I said in Part One growing up I hated to look in the mirror, I avoided it at all costs.. I simply refused to look back at my reflection…. When I left Maywood and traveled to Edwardsville for college I did not think that I was going to go through changes immediately. I had people in my life who challenged the childish things I did on a daily basis and had no choice but to start to look at myself.

I slowly started to look in the mirror from bottom up because it wasn’t just my face that I had issues with. Once I got accustomed to looking at my feet, thighs, stomach, arms, and breasts I then moved to different parts of my face slowly spending 30 days looking at the different parts.. I spent 30 days (per feature) on lips, eyes, nose, skin, and eyebrows because my face was the problem I had the most issues with.  I would say something positive every day about whatever feature I was on and if I started to think negative thoughts I would stop and pray then start over with my positive affirmations.  I have since used this exercise with my clients and it does work!

If you are in a bad space where you need help learning to love and cherish  yourself try the exercise and let me know if it worked for you!

 

Self-Worth: Part One

When I look in the mirror I always look straight at my eyes first… If I am in one of my moods where I am feeling down, my eyes usually water. If I am in one of my moods where I am perfectly content, my eyes usually water.  If I am in one of my moods where I am being goofy, my eyes usually water. I have noticed this watering of my eyes when I look directly into them since I was 19. I think (don’t know if this is the real reason) this is because I LOVE what I see now.

19 is not that long ago, half of 19 and all of the years under… I would not look in the mirror because I was afraid to look back at the reflection that was “ugly”.

Growing up I hated to look at myself.

1. I had bad acne. From as early as I can remember I always had pimples and blackheads that loved to pop up on my young adolescent face.. I do not know what I was always the brink of my “friends” and classmates jokes but I was. Maybe because I was always outspoken but unpopular.

1b. I had scares from the acne that I picked at. I watched my cousins put toothpaste on their pimples and it magically go away, so I tried doing the same and every time I failed. I was told over and over again to leave my face alone, but something in me really felt that if I was to make the pimples go away, I would make the jokes go away.. WRONG.

2. I looked exactly like my mother. I did not want to see my mother because I had so much angst for her. I felt abandoned by her so why would I want to look like the woman who did not want me?

3. I felt that my nose covered my face.  In all actuality my nose was not that big, but in my mind it was and yes I was overly dramatic… You, know I was in the drama club for a reason! Certified Drama Queen Right HERE :-0)

4. I felt that I was dirty because of being raped/molested and being threatened to not tell anyone, I had to hold that pain inside for years and when I did finally say something I was asked “Well, why did you wait until now to say something, that’s odd” In my mind it did not matter when I spoke up, what mattered was that I got that pain off of me so that I could begin to heal. I was also told that I was lying on more than one occasion.  (How’s that for someone who already has low self-worth and is trying to build it up?)

This is Part One just wait for the next one! 🙂

How is your self-worth?  Has it always been as strong as it is now?

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