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Two Men..

 

I came across this video on my twitter feed and I first read the comments on the blog post which were good and bad then watched the video for myself.

One, FABULOUS!

Second, the song playing is the song I want to walk down the aisle to.

Third, where can I find these men so that they can help me plan my wedding?

Four, as the words say, “IF THIS ISN’T LOVE THEN TELL ME WHAT IT IS”!!!!!!

I really do not understand the problem individuals have with two people of the same sex getting married.  Everyone wants to bring God into the equation, well first God is the first one to say do not judge, so you are disobeying him all together. I understand everyone will not agree with me and others who are attracted to the same sex but what harm is it doing you?  Just like in heterosexual relationships you all are not having sex 24/7, the same goes for homosexual relationships. Are relationships have substance and we have dreams of taking over in our perspective careers as well.  Stop trying to control feelings and emotions that are not going to go anywhere…

This is for you, YOU who feel the need to preach to homosexuals myself included every chance you get…

Dating vs. Family

Dating vs. Family

You vs. Dating vs. Family

Person you’re dating vs. Family

Heterosexual Dating vs. Homosexual Dating

Heterosexual Family vs. Dating vs. Homosexual Family vs. Dating

 

Either way, two different upbringings coming together will often have issues to work through because not everyone is raised the same! There are differences, actions, ideas, beliefs etc. that some people are not willing to accept… Who says that your family must accept the person you’re dating? Who says that the person you’re dating must accept your family? Is that an unspoken rule? Is that mutual respect? Then what happens if neither parties wants to do the latter?  Is one person just stuck with having to chose between family and the person that they are dating?

 
What insight do you have on dating that you can give?

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Day 29:

Goals for the next 30 days:

I always have goals lined up and sometimes I complete them and sometimes I don’t.  It just depends on how I am feeling.

A few of my goals for the month;

*Open up more to my friend

* Finish second Ebook

*Get mentally prepared for Fall Semester

*Finish application for Spring 2013 (will tell more later)

*Gain new insight on online marketing

*Find a new job

*Continue to become financially stable

 

What about your goals for the next 30 days?

 

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Day 26:

What kind of person attracts you?

 

Someone who is…

kind,

loving,

respectful,

fashionable,

attractive in their own way,

compassionate,

and honest.

Everything else will work it’s way out in my opinion.

 

What about you?

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Day 10:

Discuss your first love and first kiss:

My first kiss was 8th grade year to NB (not going to tell his name), I was soooo in like with him, thought I was in love. He was my knight and shinning armor at that time. LoL I had just been uprooted from my friends in Texas (after I finally got some) and he was the cutest boy in our 8th grade class and he like me.. I thought I was the shizzle… LOL.. We would sneak each other in the house… touch and rub…. The innocence days…

 

What about you, your first kiss and “love”….

 

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Day 5:

A time you thought about ending your own life:

I was 19 years of age, laying in my dorm room Spring Semester 2005 at SIUE and was depressed and crying because I was missing my mother who died when I was 16, trying to sort through being molested, trying to ignore and stop my attraction to women, failing ALLLLL of my classes at that time, and did not want to live anymore. I felt that it would have been easier to just end my life. I picked up a bottle of Tylenol, poured a bunch in my hand, and in walked my roommate as I was putting my hand to my mouth to swallow, more.. She knocked them out of my hand and then called a close friend of mine to tell him to get to our room immediately. That was a turning point for me. I went to counseling which did not help, I still had suicide thoughts but didn’t try to hurt myself. At that point in my life counseling didn’t stop me from thinking about slitting my wrists or swallowing pills…It actually made me what to end my life more, but the promise I made to God, myself, and friends at that time is what helped.

What about you? Have you ever thought about ending your life?

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Being True to Who YOU Are

Since I’ve been blogging one thing has been consistent… the same… Doing the best I can to be and embrace who I am, not what others feel what or who I should be.

My second workshop title was “Embracing Who You Are”

We talked about getting and becoming comfortable with yourself. If you feel that you have to hide the real you then whats the real issue? I am real good about expressing my views and who I am with friends and strangers…but when it comes to family, I get all quiet tuck my tail and walk away from the issue.. I can no longer continue to do so. I also should not feel like I have to continue to fight with and defend who I am to ANYONE… I am growing and coming into my own.. This topic can transfer to many topics and different relationships.

Communication is important but is difficult…. if you have not been taught how to properly communicate…

PLEASE don’t take that as you do not learn. make sure if you do not know how to communicate, you take that in strides and learn…

If you feel like you cannot be yourself around people, or feel that you have to explain you to others stop and look inside to figure out why.  Once grown, you don’t have to answer to anyone… Remember that!

How do you deal with being your true self no matter what?

Jessie J singing Who YOU ARE acoustic ….a  song that I LOVE soooooo much… Listen to the words. Please..

Losing Yourself..

When you meet someone and you hit it off immediately, the connection is there what does it mean when you want to spend every waking moment with that person…… Let’s act as if we do not know what that is or what it means. Lets take it back to the basics…

Infatuation.

Isolation.

Stingy.

Obsession.

Are some of the words we can use for when you meet someone and you forget about everyone else who is in your life. You’re getting to know the person, inside and out, possibly having sex depending on how slow or fast you decide to move and then depending on what the status is you start to get all these fuzzy emotions that may have not been there as soon as they are if you hadn’t had sex…

Let’s face it.

Sex brings about plenty of emotions and it changes things..

 

So how do you avoid loosing yourself?

Five Love Languages: Score

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Picture taken from screen shot on my iPad and this book was purchased with my own money.

Two weeks ago I blogged that I was currently reading ‘The Five Love Languages’ Single Edition and everyone I come across I have told them about this book because I feel that you need to know who you fully are to completely experience life. I wish I would have known about this book sooner because my relationships family, platonic and romantic could have been better. I now know!

I told you all that I would come back and reveal my Primary and Secondary Love Language. The Five different Love Languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

I immediately knew mine were Physical Touch and Quality Time.

My scores are:
Quality Time 11
Physical Touch 10
Acts of Service 5
Word of Affirmation 3
Receiving Gifts 1

The highest number you can have is 12 for one category. So that’s pretty powerful to me. I was never able to explain to my friends and past relationships why I needed so much time and to be close. I now know, of course my friends are used to that now because that’s just me…… But moving forward for romantic relationships, there will be issues if that my special person doesn’t try or learn to OR chooses not to speak my love language. and if it’s the latter that means they aren’t the one for me… Period. This knowledge of love language goes both ways also, you (I) need to learn the languages of our friends, co-workers and loved ones! I am actually going to figure out my co-workers because we have to be together for eight hours and it’s best if we make it worth while…

Can you share in the comment section your Love Language if you know it and if you don’t know it I suggest getting this copy if you’re single or picking up the relationship copy if married or in a serious relationship… Thank me later! 🙂

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