Empowering Through Experience

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Motivational Speaker / Workshops

I started this website to help promote myself, others who are amazing, and to build my brand.  I am now ready to stop the talking and start the doing. Everyone who knows me, knows that I had multiple trials and tribulations growing up as a child and that I am still working on those said issues….but that I also want to help others heal by talking to about about my experiences. I went through some necessary changes, but those changes could have been gone through differently if I wasn’t afraid to speak out. My goal is to help others not be afraid and to help them end that pain in a healthier way.

Everyone knows that I love to talk.

I want to start talking for a reason.

See Below:

Javania is on a mission who refuses to be defined by her past. Her passion is to help others free themselves from the chains that bind them, while steering them on a path of wholeness. Having overcome a childhood filled with molestation, and enduring the loss of her mother at 16, Javania knows first hand the dark prison of suicidal thoughts stemming from the sense of helplessness accompanied by low self-esteem.

Schools, Churches, Non-Profit Organizations if you have a day where you can have workshops to help the youth deal with Self-Esteem, Peer Pressure, Safe Sex, Abstinence, Rape/Molestation then, contact me!!

*Topics are not comprehensive and can be tailored to meet the needs of your program.

*The workshop includes a Journal made by Javania and Pens for the students to write with.

Javania is “Empowering Through Experience”: A Speaker on Worth Seeking, Inspirational Speaking, and Empowerment Teaching”

Website:
http://www.javaniamwebb.com
Twitter: JavaniaMWebb
Facebook: javania.m.webbInc

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Word for today…. LOVE

Love unselfishly, whole, unbiased, and true no matter what you do..

 

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CoverGirl

Janelle Monae……

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Amazing!

I love CoverGirl for adding more diversity to the company… Not to mention Janelle is fabulous and Natural.. She goes to show that being true to yourself works and most important is needed more in the industry where individuals change to be popular…

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Day 17:

Seven things that cross your mind a lot:

 

1. Being financially stable

2. Branding my name and business

3. Making my family proud

4. My mother and father

5. How to better myself

6. Helping end Rape/Molestation/Suicide Attempts

7. Love

 

Want to find out more about the challenge? Check out Spoken Words & Thoughts.

 

 

LGBTQ LOVE: Meet Alona

Name and Location
Alona Thompson/St.Louis, MO

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How old were you when you “came out”?
18

How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex?
5 or 6

How did your family react?
My family reacted very well actually..they love what I love

Do you label yourself?
I label myself a woman 1st, but the community labels me a stud.

What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of?
One misconception of the LBGTQ “lifestyle” that I want to get rid of is that lesbians are attracted to all women, we have a type as well.

How can you help the LGBTQ Youth?
Help make them aware of the diseases that you can catch as a gay youth..and what ways to protect themselves.

Do you think that you were born gay?
Good question, I am still unsure of that.

How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?
There are still those that use religion as a basis for bashing, people will always pick and choose parts from the bible or Koran or whatever your religion is to make a point.

Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?
No I do not, but I have raised a few and I am truthful and honest about everything I am and everything I do.

How do you make sure that you are being positive?
I pray a lot, and I maintain a positive attitude thru the most negative times.

Where can we find you on the web?
Facebook “Alona Thompson”

Services I Offer.

I have been mentoring youth since I was 15, while still apart of the youth crowd. I started with the community cheerleading team and never stopped… mentoring is something that I take serious, because our youth are being misguided. I will never stop mentoring the youth because they are the future of America. From drama filled reality tv shows to sex being everywhere you turn your head something that has to give. Having positive women and men in our youth life’s they will be better prepared to face the world.

I have different services that can benefit different personalities:
Mentoring, Blogging, Facilitating and Presenting workshops on topics like Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Sexual Abuse, LGBTQ issues (many others but these are the main topics)… I speak about my life growning up and the obstacles that I overcame. I am currently working on ebooks and preparing to write my memoir. I just finished school, so my schedule has more space for clients and events….

I say all of this to say, that I am qualified. Simply because of what I have gone through growing up! I am following my passion and the words of God. I was put here to help, I went through what I went through so that God could use me as a vessel.. (click on my about me page to read more about what I went through) I help others heal through issues they have now and have had since childhood. Some individuals go through life ignoring issues that are obvious to others but not themselves. They are not obvious because they choose to not let them be….

Denial is the devils playground. Don’t let him play in your backyard! Get the help you need now so that you can live a healthy and gracious life.

If you know someone who would benefit from mentoring or some programs that need facilitators for seminars or workshops let me know! I am able to travel as well. Email me: javaniamwebb at gmail dot com

Five Love Lanuages…

SINGLES EDITION

(this photo is not the singles edition cover, photo is taken from personal IPhone and the book was paid for by me)

My sis is reading the edition that Gary Chapman intended to be for women and men who are married or engaged to get married..but it seems that single people wanted something to help them in the love department as welllllll…….. When she advised me to get the copy I immediately took offense because I thought she had jokes.. But I am actually glad that she told me about it. I just started this book and I am loving reading every minute of it.. (This is the first book that I am reading on my IPad and it’s not bad)

The premise of the book is for you to fully know your love language before you can know someone else’s love language and that it is okay if your languages do not match, but you have to be willing to fulfill your partners language. Of course the examples are for heterosexual couples, but I do not think that this book excludes homosexual couples. (this is just my opinion, if you know of a book that talks about love and it’s strictly for homosexuals let me know in the comments)

I haven’t gotten to the part where he explains the different languages of love but I am looking forward to finding that out! I will update when I figure out.. 🙂

Guest Post

Hey loves, I did a post on DMVculture yesterday about my life. It’s short and sweet to the point. I’ve never done a post so raw and real. I just let my hands do the typing and what came out is what I left. Please support and head to the site and not only read my post but other posts there. There is alot of information on the site…

The Link:

http://dmvculture.com/2012/embracing-who-you-are-by-javania-m-webb/

 

LGBTQ LOVE: Dawn Johnson

Name and Location Dawn Johnson – Los Angeles, California

  • How old were you when you “came out”? I was 31 when I came out publicly, 20 when I initially told my dad
  • How old were you when you knew that you were attracted to the same sex? I was 15 years old
  • How did your family react? My family has been very supportive of my lifestyle choices.
  • Do you label yourself? I label myself in private but not in public i.e., I know I’m an Aggressive Femme and not a stud or a regular femme.
  • What is one misconception about the LBGTQ “Lifestyle” that you want to get rid of? The misconception I would want to get rid of is that all people in the LGBTQ are dysfunctional due to being abused or hurt by the opposite sex.
  • How can you help the LGBTQ Youth? I think we can help the LGBTQ Youth by being examples of what healthy LGBTQ adults look like.
  • Do you think that you were born gay? I think I was born with the attraction to women, however was raised to believe that I should be with a man.
  • How do you feel about religion being the basis of homosexuality bashing?  I feel there are people who bash homosexuality from the religious sector who are only doing so because they are hiding their fear of being “outed”.
  • Do you have children? If yes, how do you “successfully” parent being LGBTQ?  I’m pregnant and plan to teach my children about all aspects of love so they can understand that there is no right and wrong if the love is real and pure.
  • How do you make sure that you are being positive? I choose my experiences and teach from the lessons I learn.

Pariah Review

Saint Louis finally got the movie… a couple of friends and I went on opening day… Not many people were there, I’ll say a good 20 people…… that’s pushing it. Of course there were more white people than African American… this is a movie that I feel everyone should see no matter your sexual orientation, however, I do feel that LBGTQ’s needs to see it more….These words are my opinions, please go watch the movie for yourself to get a better understanding.

Pariah:

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Alike–played by Adepero Oduye, a young African American woman, senior year of high school, and apart of a family that is full of silent dysfunction.

Which starts with her parents.

Mother Audrey—played by Kim Wayans is overbearing and controlling.

Father Arthur—played by Charles Parnell non-existent because he does not want to be with mother. He’s a police officer and uses that to his advantage, and is never home.

Alike’s younger sister Sharonda—played by Sahra Melesse is the “prodigal” child according to her mother.. she happens to love being a “girl” …

Alike is identifying to be more masculine.

Alikes close friend, Laura—played by Pernell Walker a stud… who is in love with Alike but refuses to tell her (I was able to sense some liking from the first interaction).

Alike’s mother Audrey does not like Laura because she feels that she is influencing her in a negative way.  Audrey is odd, she has issues communicating, in a scene while she was at work on lunch, she is very uncomfortable being around people.  I believe it’s because of low and lack of self-esteem that she never handled from the past, plus having to deal with her husband cheating but not wanting to divorce, add that with her two children being aggravated with her.

Alike mother forces her to become friends with one of her co-workers daughter Bina—played by Aasha Davis, Audrey thinks Bina will have a “positive” influence on Alike… Bina however, is a wild child.  So much so that Bina ends up being Alike’s first and breaking her heart, because she just wanted to chill and have sex.  Even though Alike’s feelings were hurt, that moment was all of the confirmation that she needed.  She knew from that first kiss that the feelings she’d been having were indeed real.

Alike acknowledged that she was a lesbian.  She found her voice.

Her mother proceeds to beat her, Alike packs up some clothes and goes to stay with Laura.  Audrey goes on with life as if nothing happened and the next scene while they are eating dinner Sharonda mentions to her father that he needs to go find Alike.  Alike finds out that she can graduate high school early, and asks her father to sign the paperwork.  Alike goes to her mother’s job to tell her she loved her and to let her know of her plans, Audrey acts as if she is not there, and tells her she will pray for her then walks away.  Alike moves across country to attend a prestigious college writing program..

This film hits on many issues in the African American family..acting as if everything is alright when deep down you know it’s not. Numerous stereotypes are throughout this movie. Some of the stereotypes maybe true for some, but false for others. The point is light being shown on the issues in our families. Homosexuality is not a disease and I do not feel that it is wrong.  God made me and I know for a fact that he did not make any mistakes when he designed me. I know that the family issues when it comes to acknowledging your child is “different” and not going the way you want them to go are in my family. I have talked openly about how my family has responded to me coming out, although I have not been disowned, they have moments when the words they let come out of their mouth equate to diarrhea.  I have no control over that so I continue to live my life.. As it would be pleasing to God, not man.

Website link again… http://focusfeatures.com/pariah